Monday, March 31, 2025

Tuesday, April 1

 I've almost forgotten how much I hated April 1st when I was a school teacher.  Kids of primary-school age delighted in the freedom that the April Fools' Day tradition gave them to be obnoxious.  It was rare for them to play tricks on me; moving some things around on my desk or leaving something unpleasant on my chair might be as far as they would go, but some children became the butt of too much nastiness.  The rule was always that April Fool's Day finished before lunch, no exceptions.

Nowadays, of course, as a happily retired senior citizen, nobody tries to play ricks on me ... and that's the way I like it.

We have nothing much planned for today; I've watered already and had a walk, so the rest of the day is mine to enjoy.  I notice in my diary that I see the doctor tomorrow regarding my big toe and Daylight Saving ends on Sunday but there are no other plans until Probus next week.

As Marilyn would say, "All Good!"

Sunday, March 30, 2025

Monday, March 31

Jamie arrived early to drop Archie off.  Apparently he has a busy day and doesn't like to leave Archie at home on his own.  Of course, we enjoy having him..  We're waiting for the Coles man to arrive with our order but, otherwise, we have nothing else planned.  The weather is staring to become colder and I think Summer is fading fast into the background.

I had an email this morning reminding me that there is a probus meeting next week so need to sort out the financial statement.  It's the time of year when we pay our annal subs and these can come by cash or cheque, or deposited directly into our bank account.  I tried to resign from the Treasurer's job at the last meeting but without success.  You'd think it would just be a matter of throwing the books on the table and saying Goodbye but I'm a mug and tried to be accommodating.  Of course, the club took advantage of my good nature and I'm stuck with the job, probably until I kick the bucket. That'll show them!


MRS MINIVER                                                         JULY 9, 2021

Old Tom was in his ninetieth year.  He couldn’t remember when people started to attach the ‘Old’ to his name but it was probably a good while ago.  He felt as if he had been old for most of his life and now he wondered whether great slabs of his memory were disappearing.  He could still remember days of his childhood in great detail and could even recall the smells of rotting seaweed on Blackpool Beach or the reek of stale fat in the bins outside the chippie on Scorton Avenue. But when it came to remembering what he had for lunch yesterday, his mind was a blank.

Funny, that he could remember so clearly  the smell of Blackpool Beach but not something as important as what he had for lunch – even though he didn’t eat much these days and all the food tasted the same.

His mind wandered back to the days when food tasted better and he thought of the newspaper-wrapped fish and chips his mother would allow him to have on special occasions.  The fish was always cooked in crisp batter and the steam that came out when he stuck in the knife would tickle his nose.  The chips were fat and soaked in vinegar. 

Tom’s mum sometimes helped out in the chip shop when it was busy and, on those days, there would be nobody in the flat when Tom came home from school.  That was OK.  Tom’s mum would leave him a glass of milk and two ginger biscuits and he would read a book or get on with his homework until his Mum or Dad came home.  One day, when he came home, he discovered that his mother had forgotten to leave him the door key under the mat.   Settling himself down for an uncomfortable wait, he heard someone come up behind him.

“Hello, Tom,” the person said. “Are you locked out?”    It was Mrs Miniver from upstairs.  Well, it was the lady who called herself Mrs Miniver.  Mum said it was a made-up name and the real Mrs Miniver was in a film starring a famous film star whose name started with G.

“Yes,” said Tom, “and Mum won’t be back for another hour.”

“Oh, that’s a shame.  Would you like to come up to my flat and have some hot cocoa and maybe a biscuit?”

Tom didn’t know what to say.  He knew his mother didn’t like Mrs Miniver and he had overheard her telling his father that “she was no better that she should be.”  He thought that his mother wouldn’t like him to go but it was cold on the landing and he didn’t want to be rude so he said Thank you and went upstairs.

His mother was upset that Tom had gone with Mrs Miniver but, because she had forgotten to leave the key, she couldn’t say very much. Tom visited the flat upstairs more and more as time went on.  He liked Mrs Miniver’s flat.  It was always a bit untidy, unlike his place.  His mother was always angry with him if he made a mess and he was frightened to even leave a book lying about.  One day, Mrs Miniver had left the door of her bedroom open and Tom saw her unmade bed.  It had black sheets!  Tom thought all sheets were white and these ones were much shinier than the ones on his bed downstairs.

Occasionally, Mrs Miniver would ask him to leave a little early as she had a friend coming around to see her.  Sometimes, Tom would pass the friends on the stairs.  They didn’t look like the sort of people Mrs Miniver would know: sad little men in shabby coats, big men in fishermen’s jumpers, frightened men looking at him furtively.  Tom wondered what was going on and then realised that Mrs Miniver might be something like a fortune-teller and that would explain why she had so many visitors. Tom’s mum had been to a fortune-teller once and she was told that, when Tom grew up, he would wear a white coat.

“That means you’ll be a doctor,” she said excitedly. 

“More likely he’ll be selling ice-cream on Blackpool Pier,” his father had replied, grumpily.

When you’re a child, you grow up very quickly and Tom soon realised what was really taking place in the bedroom upstairs.  Like all boys he was fascinated by the frequency of the visits and struggled to reconcile his impression of Mrs Miniver as a kindly woman much like his Mum with the femme fatale image conjured up by the lurid language of his mates.

Of course, that was a long time ago and Mrs Miniver must be well and truly dead and buried.  Tom has always hoped that she passed away peacefully and is mourned by someone who loved her.  He can’t forget her, like he has forgotten so many people from his past.  One of the young women in the nursing home, by chance, wears the same perfume as Mrs Miniver wore and, like the smell of stale fat or rotting seaweed, the faint aroma of her perfume in the air takes his mind straight back to his home in Blackpool and the warm memories of Mrs Miniver, the lady upstairs.

Saturday, March 29, 2025

Sunday, March 30

I have a routine which I always follow on a Sunday morning: give Marilyn a cup of coffee so she stays in bed, have a cup of tea myself while watching Steve or Scott on Youtube, replenish my weekly medicine container and have a shower.  By this time Marilyn has wandered through and we can get on with breakfast and the rest of the day.
 
It's comforting to have a routine like that because there are usually no surprises to upset the apple-cart.  Recently, I've noticed another thing which seems to occur about the same time every Sunday: Paul, the fellow next door sets off for his walk, baseball cap on and ear buds stuck in his ear.  I hope he keeps it up; I don't like changes.

Friday, March 28, 2025

Saturday, March 29

 I'm waiting for Jamie to arrive to drive me to Westbury to see the doctor about my foot.  I'm old-fashioned, I know, but it seems strange to me that a doctor's surgery will be open on a Saturday.  It makes sense, of course.  We don't live in a Monday to Friday world but I'm just a bit slow in keeping up.

It's not my usual doctor and I was told he will just be checking 'how things are going'.  I hope that means the dressing can be removed and I can get back to my normal life: showering and so on.

The other thing on my desk to be dealt with is a form entitled 'Medical Fitness to Drive Assessment' and I'll have to deal with that at some stage.  It's not because of my advanced age that I have to do this, apparently; it's some medical condition that I suffer from, probably diabetes.  The list to be checked includes Blackouts, Epilepsy and Sleep Disorders so I suppose it's worth doing.  The trouble is that if I had any of these problems, I might be tempted not to tell anyone in case they took my licence away.

A good thing then that I am a responsible adult but I wonder how many people out there are slipping through the net.

Thursday, March 27, 2025

Friday, March 28

I'm a bit late writing this today.  Sandra, our cleaning lady always comes on Friday and, when she is here, Marilyn and I retreat to the patio to let her get on with it.  I call it a patio. It's outside, it has a concrete floor and a laserlight roof, with a glass table and four chairs.  Others might call it a lanai but that sounds a bit pretentious.  Anyway, she's gone now so I can get to the computer.

Marilyn and I had her trip to the doctor yesterday and, just as I had done last week, she sat in the waiting room for an hour before the doctor called her in.  The waiting room was empty so what's going on?  Jamie patiently explained to me that it's all the fault of Tele-Health.  I've heard of it of course but had never realised that its purpose was to make my life miserable.  Apparently, you can make an appointment as if you were going to actually visit the surgery. You don't, of course.  Instead, the doctor rings you while you are sitting at home in your pyjamas.  Like all appointments, they can run over and that means the poor folks who have taken the trouble to get out of bed, get dressed and driven miles to see the doctor face-to-face are forced to sit in an empty surgery wondering what is going on.

Is this the way of the future?  Will seeing a doctor face-to-face become a thing of the past?  Who knows?  But I suspect I'll continue to get dressed, drive for miles and confront the man because that's how I've always done it.

I'm really going all nostalgic with todays's story: First Date.


FIRST DATE                                                                                           23 May, 2020

At the beginning of the 1960s, my friends and I had all left school and were getting involved in our new careers.  For the first time in our lives we had a little money to spend on social activities and we certainly enjoyed it.  The highlight of our week was the Saturday night dance at the local Surf Club.  There was a dance held on most Saturday nights but we were careful to choose the ones which suited us.  The nights which involved the surf life-savers were pretty raucous and the girls who frequented those were not the ones our mothers would approve of.

On the Saturday afternoon before the dance, the boys knew we couldn’t expect any female company.  The girls were too busy ironing their petticoats and titivating their hair so they would look their best.  Very few of our group had paired off as boyfriend and girlfriend by that stage and the Saturday dance was a place to meet the opposite sex and ponder the possibilities. 

I remember the girls always looked spectacular and the boys looked pretty good too.  We had nothing but disdain for the wannabees at the Surfie dances with their DA haircuts, their bodgie manners and their crepe-soled shoes.  We had sharply-cut suits, with 19-inch cuffs, white shirts and narrow ties.  We wore Julius Marlow shoes, highly-polished with chisel toes and proper leather soles.  We were probably the last of the short back and sides, brylcreemed generation.

There were always some parents at the dances to keep order, and one self-appointed father would arrange the program for the night.  He always prepared the floor by sprinkling around some dried wax flakes.  I think the brand was Taps.  Our regular ‘band’ was a local pianist, with his sister on the drums.  We had the full range of old-time dances; my favourite was the Progressive Barn Dance because it gave you the chance to dance with all the girls, even the ones you were too shy to ask.  We had Spot Dances, Ladies Choice, and something called a Paul Jones which encouraged everyone to change partners.  There were no wall flowers.  If a girl was left sitting on her own, one of the parents would grab the nearest spare man and instruct him to do his duty

The girls all brought a plate so that we could have supper towards the end of the evening.

One of the girls who attended regularly caught my eye.  I discovered she worked at the Anthony Horderns' Store in town and caught the bus home each afternoon, so I contrived to be at the same bus stop at the right time each day and would strike up a conversation.  I planned my strategy carefully: I knew there was a trip being organised to Luna Park in Sydney, so I asked whether she was going.  “I haven’t been asked,” she said coyly. Seizing my chance, I said, “Consider yourself asked.” Suave as ever! 

As I worked  at the Bus Company, I knew that the romantic vehicle which took us on our first date was a Leyland Albion bus, painted orange.  It had 41 seats and registration number MO6304.  Its nickname at the depot was Cigarettes and it cost 16 pounds to hire for the trip

The Luna Park date was a great success, apart from a mishap with my watch.  The band broke, so Marilyn put it in her purse for safekeeping.  On a ride called The Octopus the purse slipped out of her lap, hit the concrete and a small bottle of Electrique perfume in the bag smashed, dowsing my watch.  The watch survived, but for many months I carried the scent around with me as a reminder of that first date.

By the way, we have now been married for 54 years. (Update: 60 years in January next year!)


Wednesday, March 26, 2025

Thursday, March 27

It was Marilyn's turn for the doctor today and it gave me a chance to try out my repaired toe.  Would I have problems driving or would she be reliant on the Community Car to get her there and back.  It's about 55 Km return to Westbury so not to be undertaken lightly if one's big toe is playing up.  As it happens, we travelled without a hitch and all is well.

Marilyn had quite a long wait to be attended to and that's not great so we'll have to address the matter. Our latter years are too precious to waste them sitting in a doctor's surgery.

Nothing else is happening today and we spent the afternoon dozing in our comfortable chairs.


Tuesday, March 25, 2025

Wednesday, March 26

 I've just come back from the doctor who has performed an operation on my big toe.  The podiatrist told me I needed to have the nail removed from that toe but the GP, who is also a surgeon suggested he take a slice from the edge instead of a wholesale removal.  Today was the day.

He gave me a couple of injections into the toe to deaden the pain - quite painful.  I waited a while and he set to work.  He sliced, cut away with scissors, put in five stitches and applied a bandage. All the while, his nurse patted my hand and told me I was very brave.  In reality, the only painful part so far has been the first injection of painkiller.  It's been ninety minutes since he did the deed and I'm starting to feel some twinges in the toe.  I've been warned: it will get worse so I have some Panamax on standby.

It was handy that Jamie could drive me there and back so that I could have the full effect of being an invalid.